But You Look So Good
Episodes
Pets & Health: The Power of Companionship
15 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Join psychologists Sally and Seona for a fun, heart-warming dive into the world of pets and the surprising ways they can boost our wellbeing - especia...
Who's Going to Date You Now? - Re-Release
08 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Re-Release: In this episode titled “Who’s going to date you now?," hosts Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio tackle the complexities of dating with a...
Can We Talk? Effective Communication for Real Life
01 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Communication feels like it should come naturally — we speak every day, after all — but real, effective communication isn’t instinctive. It’s ...
Running on Spoons
24 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered why people with chronic illness talk so much about spoons?In today’s episode, psychologists Sally and Seona dive into Spoon Theory - t...
The Pity Model: When Good Intentions Miss the Mark
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We often hear about the medical and social models of disability — but there’s another one quietly shaping attitudes toward people with chronic ill...
What an Ego!
10 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re talking about ego - not in the “you’ve got a big ego” kind of way, but in the psychological sense: the part of us that ...
Creating Habits: Reducing the Need for Will Power!
03 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Join psychologists Sally and Seona as they unpack the art of habit creation when you’re living with a chronic health condition. We’re not talking ...
Green-Flag Relationships: How to Spot the Good Ones
27 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever found yourself wondering if that friend who says, “You don’t look sick!” is waving a tiny red flag? In this episode, psychologists Sally an...
Wee Confessions: the Continence Conversation with KJ
20 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk wee and poo (yes, really). In this episode, psychologists Sally and Seona are joined by MS, Immunotherapy, and Continence Support Nurse K...
F#@k This!
13 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you noticed how many people wear T-shirts, tote bags, or pins that say “F#@k MS,” “F#@k Cancer,” “F#@k Fibromyalgia,” “F#@k Pain,”...
Rewriting the Rules - Living beyond Society’s Shoulds
06 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We all grow up absorbing society’s “shoulds”—what success looks like, how much we’re meant to achieve, and even how our bodies should functi...
I Get Tired Too - Re-Release
29 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we revisit this episode of But You Look So Good where we explored the complexities of relatability when living with a chronic health condit...
Why Do We Self-Sabotage?
22 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever caught yourself procrastinating, avoiding, or making choices that don’t serve you — even when you know better? That’s self-sabotage, and it...
What if I’ve Made the Wrong Decision?
15 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sally and Seona explore the tricky (and sometimes tormenting) world of decision-making — especially when living with chronic health challenges. From...
Preparing for Medical Appointments
08 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever left a medical appointment and thought, “Wait… what just happened?” You’re not alone. Research shows we forget up to 80% of what doctors ...
Resilience: Not about Bouncing Back!
01 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We hear the word resilience everywhere—but what does it really mean? In this episode, Sally and Seona unpack the myths around resilience and explore...
Optimistic Realism - Let’s Go!
25 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Living with a chronic health condition means facing a whole mix of emotions - from hope and positivity to worry and “what ifs.” In this episode of...
Music as a Mood Medicine
18 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of But You Look So Good, psychologists Sally and Seona (who both live with chronic health conditions) explore how music can be a power...
Who Am I Now - Re-Release
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sally and Seona are having a week off to put the finishing touches on the new course ‘But You’ll Be OK’ (starting on August 22nd - enrol now!), ...
What Can We Do With Guilt & Chronic Illness?
04 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we feel so guilty for something we didn’t choose? In this episode, we explore the quiet, complicated guilt that often comes with chronic illn...
One year of Looking So Good!
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this light-hearted but meaningful 52nd episode, we celebrate one whole year of podcasting with MS, microphones, and a lot of laughter. Join us as w...
Identifying Your Strengths
21 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Living with a chronic health condition can feel like a never-ending list of what you can’t do — but what if we shifted the focus to what’s stron...
Will I Ever Like My Body Again?
14 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore the complex and often difficult relationship we have with our bodies—especially when living with chronic illness. We div...
It's Not Always the Chronic Illness
07 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you live with a chronic health condition, it’s easy to assume every new symptom is “just part of it.” Headache? Must be the usual. Fatigue?...
Do I Have to Always Forgive?
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Sally and Seona ask the big question: do we always have to forgive to move on? Spoiler alert - nope! They dive into the messy, very h...
Let's Talk Attachment Styles
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of But You Look So Good, we dive into the fascinating world of attachment styles—how they’re formed, how they show up in adult rel...
Medical Gaslighting
09 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Worried you’ll be dismissed? Talked over? Told it’s just anxiety again? You’re not overreacting — you’re navigating a healthcare system that...
Why Is It So Hard to Ask for Help?
02 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why is asking for help so hard—even when we desperately need it? In this honest and light-hearted episode, two psychologists with lived experience u...
Do I Talk About My Condition Too Much?
26 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
“Am I oversharing? Are people sick of hearing about it? Should I just pretend I’m fine?” This week, Sally and Seona unpack the surprisingly lo...
I Don't Want to Know
19 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Join Sally and Seona, as they dive into the all-too-familiar phrase: “I don’t want to know if I’m getting worse.” In this episode, they explor...
Is This the Beginning of the End… and Other Lies Anxiety Tells Us
12 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re diving deep into the what ifs — those spiralling thoughts that show up when anxiety grabs the mic. From “What if I never ...
To Disclose or Not… and Other Workplace Woes
05 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into the complex, messy, and often exhausting experience of navigating work while living with a chronic health condition. Fro...
But You Could be Kinder to Yourself
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we’re diving into self-compassion — what it really means, why it’s so hard sometimes, and how it can make a real difference when you’...
Stress Management 101
21 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Psychologists Sally and Seona know how deeply stress impacts chronic illness. In this episode, they explore how it worsens symptoms like inflammation,...
Untangling the Story: Rewriting Your Narrative
14 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of But You Look So Good, Sally and Seona explore how Narrative Therapy can help people with chronic health conditions separate themsel...
How Do You Feel About... Medication
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into the tricky world of supporting clients who are managing chronic health conditions and wrestling with medication decision...
Coping with Kids - Parenting with a Chronic Health Condition
31 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Parenting is hard. Parenting with a chronic health condition? That’s a whole new level of complexity. In this episode, we dive into the messy, beaut...
Is Post-Traumatic Growth Really a Thing?
24 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of But You Look So Good, hosts Sally and Seona explore the concept of Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG) and its relevance to individuals liv...
How Do You Feel About... Labels?
17 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Labels can be powerful—they help us find community, access support, and make sense of our experiences. But they can also feel limiting, overwhelming...
It's Mental
10 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, It’s Mental, we explore the difference between mental health and mental illness, breaking down the many dimensions that shape our m...
Where Did Everyone Go?
03 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Where Did Everyone Go? we explore loneliness and social isolation in chronic illness. Sally and Seona unpack the difference between t...
Sleep - The Underdog of Health
24 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sleep often takes a backseat to other aspects of health, but its impact on cognitive function, mood, and physical well-being is undeniable. In this ep...
Funny, Not Funny - Should We Just Be Laughing Through It All?
17 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Humour can be a lifeline, a way to find light in the darkest moments—but is it always helpful? In this episode, Sally and Seona explore the complex ...
But You Look So Good Podcast Trailer
14 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to the podcast But You Look So Good.We are two psychologists on a mission to illuminate the realities of living with chronic health conditions...
'No' is a complete sentence. Let's practice.
10 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Seona and Sally dive into the power of saying 'No' and the importance of setting boundaries in everyday life. They share personal experiences,...
Slow It Down
03 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of But You Look So Good, Sally and Seona dive into the necessity and benefits of embracing slow living. They share personal stories an...
From Warrior to CEO
27 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Seona and Sally explore the shift from identifying as a warrior battling a chronic health condition to embracing the role of a CEO ma...
Getting the Most Out Of Your GP with Dr. Melanie Tait
20 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this insightful and entertaining episode of But You Look So Good, Seona and Sally sit down with GP Melanie Tait, who brings a unique perspective as...
Becoming a Psychologist: The Highs, Lows and What We Love
13 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Join Sally and Seona as they share their personal journeys to becoming psychologists. In this episode, they open up about the twists and turns that le...
New Year: How We're Tackling 2025
06 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this light and personal episode, Seona and Sally reflect on their experiences from 2024 and share their intentions for 2025, now that the new year ...
Intentions Over Resolutions This New Year
30 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this final episode of the year, "Intentions Over Resolutions This New Year," Seona and Sally explore why setting intentions can be a more compassio...
Coping with Christmas
23 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Seona and Sally delve into the whirlpool of the festive season, sharing personal anecdotes and exploring strategies to help you manag...
Acute or Chronic? Let's talk Breast Cancer with Marisa Stevens
16 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is Cancer Chronic? Join Sally and Seona as they explore the complex nature of cancer as a chronic illness. In this episode, they welcome Marisa Steven...
A World of Pain
09 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Sally and Seona share their thoughts on the SBS documentary A World of Pain, hosted by Osher Günsberg. They discuss its portrayal of...
Performing Illness
02 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of But You Look So Good, Seona and Sally delve into the sensitive and multifaceted topic of Performing Illness. They examine how the n...
Will Meditation Help or Just Make Me Think About Snacks?
25 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this relatable episode, Sally and Seona dive into the world of mindfulness and meditation. Will it help you unwind, or will your mind wander to sna...
What's the Deal with Support Groups?
18 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Sally and Seona dive into the world of support groups in response to a listener’s question about their value. Tune in as they share...
Fork That! Let's talk diet with Marnie Nitschke
11 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Sally and Seona sit down with dietitian Marnie Nitschke to dig into the tricky relationship people with chronic health conditions oft...
How Do You Feel About... Sharing Your Story?
04 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this reflective episode of But You Look So Good, Sally and Seona explore the layered experience of sharing their personal and professional journeys...
Grief is Complicated
28 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of But You Look So Good, Seona and Sally delve into the layers of grief that are unique to those living with chronic health conditions...
The Pressure to Perform Wellness
21 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join Sally and Seona as they dive into the concept of 'performing wellness.' In a candid and humorous discussion, they reflect on their personal exper...
"How Do You Feel About... seeing a Psychologist"
14 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Sally and Seona introduce a new series of episodes titled "How Do You Feel About That?" which will pop up throughout the usual conten...
You're So Lucky
07 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Sally and Seona dive into the frustrating comment, "You're so lucky," often directed at people living with chronic health conditions....
I Get Tired Too
30 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode of But You Look So Good, Sally and Seona explore the complexities of relatability when living with a chronic health condition. ...
Who Am I Now?
23 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of But You Look So Good, hosts Sally and Seona explore the question, “Who am I now?” after receiving a chronic health diagnosis. T...
"Just Think Positively"
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join hosts Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio as they dive into the topic of toxic positivity and the societal push to categorise emotions as 'good' ...
"It's Such a Shame"
09 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio explore the complex and often hidden emotion of shame, drawing on Brené Brown's powerful definition:...
I Can Control It
02 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore the inherent human desire for control—why it's so deeply ingrained and how it plays out in the context of living wit...
Did you see 60 Minutes?
26 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"Did You See 60 Minutes?" is about the common experience of people living with chronic health conditions being frequently told by others to ...
You're Such An Inspiration
19 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio dive into the concept of "Inspiration Porn," a term used to describe society's tendency to view p...
"While You Still Can"
13 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode explores the pervasive sense of impending doom that many people with chronic health conditions experience. It delves into both external a...
Who's going to date you now?
05 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode titled “Who’s going to date you now?," hosts Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio tackle the complexities of dating with a chronic hea...
But You Look So Good
29 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In the premiere episode of "But You Look So Good," hosts Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio dive into the origins of the podcast and discuss how &q...